Where oh where has my little time gone, oh where oh where can it be?
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how fast time passes us by. Time is constantly moving, changing, evolving and progressing. I even Googled the term: “Time is a measure in which events can be ordered from the past through the present into the future, and also the measure of durations of events and the intervals between them(1).”
It’s a bit crazy to think that just a year ago, my son wasn’t here. Now, he is almost 9 months old but when I take a second to think about it, it feels like that time was just yesterday when I was sitting in the hospital bed in labor. Time is a funny thing. It doesn’t stop for anyone. You can’t change time, you can only make the best of your time spent doing something or correct it for the time that you will be doing that same thing in the future. Time has no boundaries, it’s limitless. You can think about time as a number but really it’s infinite in the broader picture, only limited for the time we spend here on Earth. I get why time can be linked to religion, philosophy and science but can anyone really define time? Time is used to define so many individual “things” but is the term itself really defined?
As I thought more about my time so far (almost 27 years to be exact), it really became a blur as to how many memories I couldn’t remember over those nearly 3 decades. Time passes but we don’t always remember what we have done with our time. It started to make me think…would I have done anything differently if I could change my time spent, thus far?
Here are my thoughts:
1. Travel: I SO would have traveled more. I think traveling is a beautiful privilege. I am envious of those who have seen the world and the cultures surrounding it. Some of you may be saying, “you’re only 27, travel now, travel later, travel whenever you like because you have all of the time in the world left.” There we go again with the time. Unfortunately, none of us have all of the time in the world left as we are severely limited with the time we have. Yes, I may be only 27 but that’s potentially 1/3 of my life lived. So yes, I would have traveled more before I had a child. I probably will travel more later in life after my kid or kids are grown but it would have been nice to travel “care free” in my younger, college years. Maybe to study abroad or take a cruise around Europe. I think traveling teaches things that can’t be taught through text books or words. It instills other values in us as we learn the ways of people around the world. I have been to Dominican Republic, Spain, Mexico and a bunch of Caribbean cruises but ideally, I would travel globally to far off places like Thailand, Japan and Bali. My husband on the other hand would stay in our cozy home and never travel – He would be that guy you stare at the entire flight in the seat next to you on the airplane wearing a germ mask! He insists it’s unsafe, we will get sick and oh, did I mention cruises are completely out of the question because we will get a disease in such small living quarters?…I’ll convince him one of these days.
2. Stress Less: I think I was born this way and maybe there are others out there like me but I find that I stress way too much about things that are out of my control. I wake up everyday before work with a knot in my stomach thinking about projects I haven’t gotten to yet or if someone else on my team didn’t finish work that I need to present to my clients. I stress about going to the doctor – what if something is wrong with me? I stress about my son – should he be eating these foods at this age or is he perfectly normal? Stress is inevitable in certain situations but I would and need to stress less about unpreventable situations and things in life. Lately, I have been trying to practice Yoga in my house. I found fabulous Yoga videos (30 day Yoga challenge for instance) on my Apple TV and I am hopeful that getting into a routine, will help me stress less!
3. Do for Yourself: I finally caved and got my FIRST facial a few weeks ago. I had never gotten one – not that I didn’t want one…I just never found the time to have “ME TIME” at a spa. Regardless of it costing $250 for a regular facial + collagen mask (yup, $250), it was worth every penny. I got to get away from mommy life for a few hours and enjoy the day out getting pampered. It made me feel revitalized, calm and de-stressed. Yes, I could have gone to the mall and bought clothes with that money but it was much better spent at the spa, I must say. That was my first and NOT my last spa day. I am going to make it a point to have “me time” once every 2 months or so. I need it – I’m sure other people have their ways of de-stressing outside of spas…what’s your calm place?
Do you think your time is spent wisely? What would you do differently if you could turn back time?
Remember…time is always of the essence.