We All Have This One Thing In Common With Mr. Christian Grey

Let me start this off by saying I had never watched the 50 Shades Of Grey Movies when they debuted and I had only read the first book when it was released (but woah, all the feels when I read the book – did anyone else want to immediately go immediately find their husband, wife or significant other 😂? ) Okay, let’s keep this PG-13. No specific reason for not seeing the movies – I’m just not a huge movie person in general (cannot tell you the last movie I saw in an actual movie theatre) and I was pretty side tracked with my toddler (then) and new baby on the way.

Fast forward to a few years after “50 Shades Of Grey” and “50 Shades Darker” had been released. I was home alone one night while my hub was working, with only Luca at this point (Landon wasn’t born yet) and decided to watch the first movie after I had put him to sleep.

Well, that spiraled quickly and before I knew it, it was 3am and I had watched both the first and second movie, pretty much obsessed at this point….not in the fact that he was a sadist but at the romance, fiery passion, luxurious lifestyle and this one sentence Christian mentioned in the first movie that pretty much became engrained into my head for eternity.

Christian Grey:
“To what do I owe my success?

Anastasia Steele:
[nervously] Yep.

Christian Grey:

Anastasia Steele:

Christian Grey:
Business is about people and I’ve always been good at people. What motivates them. What inspires them.

Anastasia Steele:
Maybe you’re just lucky.

Christian Grey:
I’ve always found that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have. The key to my success has been in identifying talented individuals and harnessing their efforts.”

BOOM – like a freight train, this one liner struck me hard. This one little sentence has stuck with me from that night I decided to first indulge in the fantasy life of Mr, Christian Grey himself.

—“I’ve always found that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have.”


To me though, this doesn’t only apply to work as in your monetary income stream. This applies in all facets of life.

It may seem like such a simplistic thought, maybe even common sense.

I think we can all agree that adulthood is difficult, not only for the fact that you are discovering your self, your career path, seeking your significant other to do life with, having children, figuring out how to care and nurture those children in the best way possible, trying to keep your friendships alive, all while trying to ensure you make a teeny tiny little bit of extra time for yourself in the process.

1. Work

—“I’ve always found that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have.”

This one liner applies to work in the sense that there are no hand outs (unless you’re a trust fund baby (or win the lotto) and if that’s the case, I applaud you and maybe envy you just a tad)). That’s certainly not the case for me (or us). The harder and smarter you work, the more success you’ll have, in most cases, not all…but majority. (I feel like I need disclaimers on my writing for the .0005% who will have something negative to say). You work harder at your job and you may see a pay raise. You work harder building your client pipeline and you may see an increase in demand and sales. You work harder at getting positive feedback and the larger your word of mouth/referral base becomes. The harder you work to train your team, the more productive they become.

2. Friendships

—“I’ve always found that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have (in my friendships).”

This applies to friendships in the sense that in reality, a friendship is a job in itself, just like your monetary income stream job. Your friendships require work to keep alive. If you neglect your friendships, never call, never see the person or make any conscious effort, your friendship will likely wither away and like Mr. Wonderful on Shark Tank says “you’re dead to me.” Yeah, that’s pretty much what will happen to your friendships if you don’t work at them. The more effort you apply (let me say that this applies to “healthy” friendships only, not the toxic ones that should be goners anyways), the more “luck” you’ll have with keeping them alive and flourishing.

3. Relationships (significant others):

—“I’ve always found that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have (in relationships).”

This applies in your romantic relationships as well. Let’s face it. No relationship is perfect (maybe on social media) (I mean if you think yours is, great and I want to meet you ASAP…but mainly they’re not)…not to sound depressing or dull. The harder you work at your relationship, the less likely it is to fail. Yes, fail. It happens all of the time. I’m 13 years deep into mine and my hubs relationship and it is nowhere close to perfect. I like that saying “perfectly imperfect” because everyone has a different definition of perfect. Be realistic with yourself and your partner. We all have imperfections, faults…but we also all have strengths and unique characteristics that make us first like or fall in love with our significant other. (Disclaimer: I am not a marriage counselor, psychiatrist or doctor…these are my personal opinions based on 30 years of life experience).

4. Parenting

—“I’ve always found that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have (in being a parent).”

Parenting is HARD. We all face ups, downs and everything in between. The harder I seem to work on bettering MYSELF, the more luck I have with parenting. You may be asking “but isn’t this solely about the harder you work on parenting, the better you’ll become at parenting? NO. I’ve found that at times I’m not my best self (whether that’s because of work stress or marital stress or monetary stress). If I’m not my best self, how can I be my best version of a parent to my kids (who don’t know any better?) They deserve the best version of me, so I strive to try to work on myself to improve in this category when I feel like I’m slacking.

Gosh, Christian Grey. You’ve taught us mighty well. Thank you for your wisdom and forever being stuck in my mind.



Movie quote source: https://www.quotes.net/mquote/1004266

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